Leader In Me
March Leader In Me Habit 5
We are learning about Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood.
Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood means that it is better to listen
first and to talk second. This habit is best approached by introducing listening as a
skill, something that should be practiced. Simply put, we have two ears and one
mouth and should use them accordingly.
Books that reinforce Habit 5:
• Marrying Malcolm Murgatroyd by Marne Farrell
• Rules by Cynthia Lord
Expect your child to use words and phrases like listening first, listening with your
ears, eyes, and heart, and seeking first to understand in their conversations this
week. You can encourage your child by using some of this language at home. You
may have an opportunity to share your feelings with your child about Seek First to
Understand, Then to be Understood.
Check out www.TheLeaderInMe.org. Here you will find activities for your child in
“The Student Schoolyard”. In “The Parents’ Place” you will find fun ways to
involve the entire family in Habit 5!